In this crazy thing we call life, it’s not unusual to face moments that make us see just how strong we really are. From unexpected deaths to being laid off, getting a divorce, or being diagnosed with a serious illness, these events often occur without any warning and leave us with plenty of questions.
Should I stay or go? Should I forgive and forget or hold on to it a bit longer? Should I leave everything behind and move across the country or stay here? Should I fight back or give in? Before long, these questions become an internal thirst that we have to quench, while trying to determine which outcome will be the best for our life.
Here’s the problem. We have the tendency to hold onto to the things that are no longer working for us. We all know that person who is in a bad situation and is hanging on for dear life in an effort to appear brave. It’s the same person that constantly repeats the mantra, “Giving up is not an option.”
Are you this person? If you are holding on to something that damages your health or keeps you from being truly happy, you have to look at why you are insistent on staying.
Life is simply a balance of letting go and holding on. We make such an effort to make the right decision, but we never really know when it is time to let go and move on. From jobs to friendships, romantic relationships, and even where we live, everything has an expiration date. It’s not unusual for us to insist on holding onto something that isn’t working out simply for fear that we won’t be able to find anything better.
For many of us, our biggest fear involves the unknown. This is why we hold on for dear life and manipulate our situations to try and control them. Unfortunately, the outcome is always the same: plenty of pain, tons of blame and guilt, and a huge amount of frustration.
To avoid getting stuck in a situation that no longer benefits you, ask yourself if any of the following apply to your situation. Let’s look at the 20 signs that it is time for you to let go and move on.
1. The situation causes more pain than happiness.
2. When you are holding on only out of fear of the unknown.
3. When the thought of finally being free fills you with a sense of relieve.
4. When you believe in a better life for yourself.
5. When you are constantly thinking about the past and avoiding the present.
6. When you are constantly hoping and begging for the situation, place, or person to change.
7. When you are no longer having fun.
8. When you no longer have any joy or passion.
9. When you are afraid this is the best it will ever be.
10. When you have altered your values and beliefs and sacrificed the person you really are.
11. When you know deep down that you are holding onto something that you should let go of.
12. When you are no longer having fun.
13. When you cry more than you love and laugh.
14. When you are emotionally, physically, and spiritually exhausted.
15. When you stop dreaming and forget who you are.
16. When you force a smile to hide the pain.
17. When the only reason you stay is because you hope things will get better.
18. When the situation is preventing you from growing and becoming the person you really want to be.
19. When the pattern continues despite your efforts to fix it.
20. When you are resentful, bored, or complacent.
If you found yourself saying yes to most of these questions, it is time for you to take a step in the right direction and let go. This list isn’t meant to make you feel bad, but to help you make the best choice for your life. Have faith in your future and understand that you will be guided to happiness.